How to overcome self-doubt?

I have been attending the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Training Program with Jack Kornfield and Tara Brach for more than a year. Last Sunday, my mentor asked us that we are about to step into the role of a "Mindfulness Meditation" teacher and share the teachings with our students. She then invited us to check with ourselves to see if we could see what thoughts come up?

As I listened deeply in the sharing circle, I kept hearing 'Self-doubt", and a different form of self-doubt took shape, such as: Who am I to do this work? Am I enough? What if nobody shows up, and what if I mess up? What if I fail? People will laugh, reject, or be jealous.... and so on.

As I sat with that, I could see and feel the vicious circle of "self-doubt" expressed in some ways:

It can go to panic, anxiety, and self-sabotage from self-doubt by keeping you busy doing different things. And these are not the important things you like. These may even take refuge in foods, drugs, addictions, or split intention: "I want to do this, but I am not sure," or a feeling of living half of your life,...

Or it can take another turn: self-doubt - overwhelming, trying to be perfect, where it slowly takes you away from your heart and your authenticity. or overworking yourself, try to prove to people how good you are, it can lead to neediness, seeking approval from outside

Whatever direction it takes - it hurts, it's painful, and will always take you far away from yourself, your purpose, and your people.

I would love to share with you three simple ways to help us to work/ sit and overcome self-doubt:

1. Connect with the energy of your sincere aspiration, of your why, of your beginner mind:

When self-doubt shows up, notice it and ask yourself: "Why did I want to do it from the beginning...? "what is my deepest heartfelt intention?". The energy of purposes is the energy of the source that will help cut through all the noise of self-doubt and fear. It will get you back to your ground to stay humble, give you unlimited energy, and liberate you to become what you want to become.

An ego intention may want to do it perfectly or impress people, while a heart's true intention is always longing for connection and love.

2. Seeing and receiving yourself.

My invitation is to recall back each step, each effort you have walked yourself to where you are right now. As you feel the "self-doubt" or judgment energy in your body - sit with that. You may notice the unmet needs and a deep longing "to be seen" "to be received" with the people who mean the world to you. As you witness yourself, hear yourself crying, and see yourself in that way, you just know deep within yourself that you are enough, and you have "some good shits" to share with the world.

3. Promise/Whisper/ Committee with yourself: "No matter what happens, I will catch you whenever you fall. I am here. I will never leave you again."

Whenever "self-doubt" arrives, welcome and give space for that voice, you will realize that the beliefs, the old stories, the old wounds keep showing up...Remember you have the power to ask the question: 'Is it true?".

Also, the "Little child, or the child consciousness" in us, needs to be assured and be reassured with: "No matter what happens, I will catch you whenever you fall. I am here. I will never leave you again."

In some cases, the "wounded inner child" in us refuses to "trust you" as the adult. That may be because the wounded inner child has been disconnected for a long time. It is a good sign for you to do the work of the Inner Child Healing to grief for what happened or what didn't happen so that you can become a mother father for your life stories.

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